Its not the awful moments of life that stifles our spiritual growth. Its getting caught in a cycle of re-living those awful moments. We can escape the cycle and live full and fearless life.
I came across a book by spiritualist Adyashanti titled Emptiness Dancing. The author reawakened me to the essence of God and life with a simple sentence; "The truth is that you already are what you're seeking. You are looking for God with his eyes."
Think that's deep? Check out this video if you can subdue your fear of learning ancient truths: